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Doctor: “You have acute appendicitis.”

Blonde: “I came here for medical help, not compliments.”

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Everyone likes to be complimented. People feel good about themselves when they receive a compliment and they feel good about the person giving the compliment.

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An ER Doctor: “No one likes to be told they are a terrible patient. It is very temping to agree with the patient who announces that they are the ’worst patient you’ll ever see.’ While they may be right, they prefer to hear you say, ’Oh, you’re not anywhere near the worst patient I’ve ever seen. As a matter of fact you are doing rather well considering the circumstances.’ After agreeing with some of the worst patients imaginable, I found that I hurt their feelings. An ounce of honey is much better at getting any semblance of cooperation than a cup of vinegar.”

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Giving compliments is not always a natural behavior. Some people never have a nice word to say and others offer compliments so readily that they have limited credibility. The use of compliments to enhance bedside manner requires observational skills to find the perfect words and the knowledge of when to use them. You don’t want to be thought of as disingenuous. If you become attuned to peoples’ body language and behavior, and understand when and how a compliment works, you will find the right words to say.

Appearance Compliments

The observant practitioner will notice the patient who takes great pride in their dress and knows that they truly appreciate recognition for all the time and effort and money that went into their outfit and accessories.

The elderly man or woman may wear a nice hat or scarf that coordinates perfectly with their outfit. Recognition of the effort expended in preparing for a visit with the doctor by offering a compliment is greatly appreciated.

DOCTOR

“My, what a lovely outfit, Mrs. Jones.”

Those few words just made someone’s day, and they will love you forever. The astute practitioner recognizes all sorts of things like this, and while the object of the compliment doesn’t have to please your personal taste, the offering is still very effective. 

While you may not personally relish tattoos, whenever someone has a particularly large one, consider a compliment. They saved three weeks salary to get this demon from hell breathing lightning bolts from oversized nostrils painted indelibly on their calf, and they wear shorts in the dead of winter to it show off. You better believe they love that you noticed the masterpiece (who could miss it) and told them how you really like the vivid colors.

You should make a concerted effort to give physical compliments whenever they are apropos. Offer compliments about hairstyle (your hair looks great!) or color (you have the most lovely blonde hair); clothing and accessories (that dress is stunning on you; I love those jeans; that is such a great pocketbook); eye color (you have the most beautiful blue eyes); and anything you think the patient takes pride in. Just be careful not to make your friendly compliments too personal, so they can’t be mistaken for sexual advances.

Behavior Compliments

Even more appreciated are compliments about how the patient performs at the visit. This form of encouragement goes a long way in helping your patients through difficult procedures. The more frightened the patient, the more they appreciate being told how well they are doing. Not only will they love the compliment, they will actually try to live up to your praise–making your job easier.

Every patient who works with you deserves compliments throughout the treatment. What doctors eventually take for granted because they do it everyday may be a monumental difficulty for the average patient.

Here are just a few compliments you could offer throughout the day.

You are doing great. You are the best patient I’ve seen today. I can’t believe how well you are doing. I can’t believe you never had root canal therapy before. I’ve seen an awful lot of patients over the years and not many are as good as you. Mary, do you believe how well Jim is doing? (Mary is your assistant). 

There are several funny compliments presented in the chapter on comedy that work fine, too. If you stay attuned to people’s appearance and behavior, you can learn to compliment many of the things that make your patients feel good.


Comments
• Ji (2024/09/04 01:29)
As practitioners, we walk in daily in our usual normal scrubs that required minimal thought about our outfit selection that day. It\\\'s true that our patients are quite the opposite! I\\\'ve seen patients wear their nicest jewelry with their hair done and in their Sunday best. Recognition of that does usually help the patient to lower their guard and open them up to feel more comfortable around us before speaking about anything treatment related.
• Karen Kimzey (2024/09/03 21:50)
In the past few months, I\\\'ve started to actively compliment my patients. I started to finish the appointment with saying how great they did. I thank them for their patience and allowing me to be a resident. Like you said, everyone deserves compliments.
• Thomas Maher (2024/09/03 21:07)
I have never thought of the psychology behind the tattoo compliment! It is true, people spend a lot of time, money, energy, and they even endure some pain for that permanent artwork. A compliment can go a long way!
• John Millar (2024/09/03 20:00)
This is a great, easy way to immediately connect with your patient. I found the demon tattoo line awesome. I feel like tattoos and piercings are usually great ones to talk about. I haven\'t tried too many compliments about clothing because I feel like most of my patients here in Philly aren\'t wearing enough of it. The hair is also a good one that I will work into my rotation. The other aspect that is so true about this post is not agreeing with a negative nancy about their abilities. That just sets them up for failure. No matter how terrible my patient does, I usually try to tell them how great they did. Or if they were truly the worst, I will try to find one thing that they did really good at. Sometimes I just tell them how difficult of a procedure that was and how wonderfully they handled it. It may have been horrible, but I want to at least end on a positive note.

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